Tonight its all about family Ya'll....You know you can't pick em, and sometimes you do...family!  So defined as the people who gave you life and raised you...for most of us it is well beyond that, its friends and loved ones beyond mom and dad.  As we raise up...its aunts and uncle and sister and brother in laws..friends that touch your life in a way no other has, strangers who do the same, its a set of children given to you by new opportunities and fate, mature wonderful individuals who inspire me.........I love them, Its great having them in my life.  Family does such things to you...turns you inside out, makes you mad and sad and sometimes glad...(heheheh)  But imagin if you didn't have your father or mother to turn to any longer...or your surrogate mommy and daddy.  If you didn't have your bestie to call at the very moment shit went to hell ina handbasket.  I know one of the biggest regrets I have in my life right now is that I didn't have a wonderful relationship with my grandparents.  First it was because I didn't know who I wanted to be when I was young, so I didn't know that sitting with them and listening to their stories would some how benifit me, would some how help me when I was grown and beginning my quest as the friendly female farmer ( picture girl in jeans with a patchwork cape, long brown braids and a straw cowgirl hat) Oh yeah that's it...  Anyhoo, If I had only known to brave the fear of my big bad grandfather, who in fact was just a sweetie on the inside.  Thankfully one of my cousins has named their sons after him, ROMEO, I love you and miss you very much...I Oh so wish I could sit and talk to you about farming, about what you would do now with what we had to work with...How your perspective on the day you lived in could have helped me, also some of your skills or tips.  I say this and my grandmother is very much alive and well and I MUST Get over to visit her, its just what needs to be done or years from now I will be writing regret notes in my blog....Family is honestly what you make of it, Its the effort YOU put into it.....If you think its anyone else fault that you don't have a relationship with them then think again.  You have the ability to make any relationship a reality.  If you want an amazing relationship with your husband, find a way to make it happen, if you want one with your mother, then find a way and make it happen....YOu can make anything you want happen...especially with people you love and have a vested interest in.  Before its all to late and you have regrets....and you have to write about it in a blog and hope some one you know is haunted and that haunt knows your grandfather in heaven, and they tell him about the blog and he See's it and somehow.......OK seriously......LOVE your family, do what it takes to have a relationship with them...you will look back on your life and fondly remember them....Love you all out there my family!!!!!

nighty night....the friendly female farmer....